Posted by Medusa on October 8, 2002, at 2:24:45
In reply to Re: mother - and Freud? help!, posted by Burt on October 7, 2002, at 14:47:26
> Would you trust your doctor if you found out that he is suffering from severe depressions and that he has a major case of cocaine addiction?
>
I wouldn't exclude the possibility of his having valuable insight. I'm capable of terrific work even though I suffer from severe depression.> But even assuming that your mother is
>responsible for your block in your job search:She's not responsible for the block. I am. My reactions to her are the block. So if I change my reactions, there goes the block.
>Does knowing that remove the block? Or does it simply give you a reason to go on waffling?
>Mmm, I think that gaining understanding of why she behaved the way she did, will help me to gain some emotional distance and healing, thus changing my reactions to her, thus easing the removal of the block.
Already, the little understanding I have - and the therapist repeating that I could NOT have changed my mother - has removed a lot of my objections to successful employment.
>instead of writing a letter to my mother, I would send out 300 resumes.
>Not sure what field you're in, Burt, but in mine, this would be a sure-fire recipe for receipt of 300 rejection letters. I'll take your point to mean, Take Action, and yes, I'll do that.
> Also, I would quickly remove the thought "My mother wishes me to fail" from my brain. Very dangerous.
>Acknowledging the wish isn't the same as granting it. I think that the wish has to be acknowledged in order to effectively reject it.
Denying the existence of her wish and it's importance has thus far arrested my progress. So for now, I'm going to try the head-on approach.
Thanks for your input - I didn't realise that Freud used cocaine!
-M
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