Posted by sassyfrancesca on July 11, 2008, at 8:33:36
In reply to Lou's reply to sassyfrancesca- » sassyfrancesca, posted by Lou PIlder on July 10, 2008, at 18:40:26
Lou: I don't wish to go into the whole ugly story again (triggers me), but in answer to your last question: What skills do/did the pastor need to counsel abused women?
All the skills any trained psychotherapist has.
He needed a working knowledge of what abuse IS and how it affects the abused. He was clueless, and did such damage to so many women. I was naive to think he could help me. I helped myself, and am the moderator of an abused survivors' group.
I may be chosen to present my paper on verbal abuse to the American Counseling Association next year, because of my experience and knowledge of the subject.
The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans is the 2nd most important book in the Universe in my opinion. One Ph.D. stated "It is the cornerstone of civilization."
I don't want or desire to answer any more questions about what happened; I don't need the triggers. you can read what happened to me: www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com
My ex didn't commit adultery; he abused me; churches behave as if divorce is the ultimate sin; churches do such damage, because or their ignorance.
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