Posted by Lou Pilder on June 15, 2008, at 20:40:20
In reply to Spiritual Abuse (My Ugly Story), posted by sassyfrancesca on June 10, 2008, at 12:30:13
> I had never heard the term, "spiritual abuse" until it happened to me. I was a member of a Baptist church for 31 years, finally got the courage to get a divorce after 31 years of abuse.
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> I fought the system for 18 months to try and stop the pastor (of disaster, LOL) from "counseling" any more women, because 2 of them wanted to commit suicide.
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> In the end (on my birthday, no less), my name was put up on a big screen, followed by the words: "Conduct Unbecoming a Child of God." They put it up 3 times. For the abuser, they used different verbiage (mysogynists)....: "Church Discipline"
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> I was called to a meeting of deacons (16 "men") not allowed to have a woman present, and asked: "Are you having sex with your ex" I had allowed him to live in my house after the divorce (long story).
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> Something positive/wonderful came out of that debacle: www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com (faith-based poems of anguish, healing, hope and comfort came pouring from my wounded soul. It has been a phenomenon; over 14,190 hits.
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> Elie Wiesel (survivor of Auschwitz) has written to me regarding the poems; I am so honored.
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> SassySaasyfrancesca,
You wrote,[...I was a member of a Baptist church...I fought the system...to try and stop the pastor... from "counseling" any more women, because 2 of them wanted to commit suicide...]
I am unsure as to what you are wanting to mean in the above statement. If you could clarify the following, I could have the opportunity to respond accordingly.
A. In [...I fought the system...] I am unsure as to if the system that you are wanting to mean is the Baptist system in and of itself , since you were a member for 31 years, or if the system that you are referring to is some other system that includes the Baptist system, or something else.
B. In,[...because 2 of them wanted to commit suicide...], I am unsure as to if the reason that the women wanted to commit suicide is connected to the pastor that you are referring to, or if the reason that the 2 women wanted to commit suicide is unrelated to the pastor in question, or something else.
C. In,[..."counseling"...] , I am unsure as to the reason(s) that you used quotes could be.
Lou
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