Posted by alexandra_k on September 22, 2006, at 19:41:44
In reply to Re: Do you think its possible... » alexandra_k, posted by muffled on September 22, 2006, at 13:50:54
Yeah. I think it sounds like you needed some more reassurance than you got when you were a kid. I remember feeling the same. Like people wished I wasn't around. Like they would prefer it if I wasn't there. Mostly I just wanted to fall through the floorboards. So self conscious and awkward.
And all I needed was a smile. Some kind of reassurance.
I can't remember the age...
When kids start to toddle I guess... You kind of start to wander. You see a kid toddling along. It gets to somewhere then looks for attachment figure. Attachment figure smiles and toddler is happy and proud. If attachment figure doesn't look and smile sometimes toddler starts to cry.
Reassurance.
Kids bring up all kinds of feelings in me too.
I think mostly kids need what all of us need. To feel loved and accepted for who they are.
If you want your kids to feel loved and accepted... Tell them how you love them and offer / give them hugs and smiles when they need them.
You are a great person muffled. Nobodies perfect... But your kids are doing alright aren't they?
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