Posted by garnet71 on February 3, 2009, at 19:01:14
In reply to Re: Diagnose me (please) - recommendations? » garnet71, posted by SLS on February 2, 2009, at 20:08:48
2. The reasons why you have on multiple occasions fallen victim to narcissists.
- Scott
---------------I just thought up a little theory about this.
Narcissists have an external reference point; their identity and sense of self is derived only from those outside of them; they are empty except what they can feel as a result of interaction with others; they are extroverted (not to be confused with outgoing). They have an ego-barrier to their soul...btw, Do narcissists have more white brain matter than grey?
The oppositite of narcissists - introverts (not to be confused with people who are shy) - have an internal reference point; their values, thoughts, identity is a product of their internal soul; our being is not filtered from interacting with others; our ego is transparent and weak; these are the impulsive, open, unpretentious people; often ADDers. btw, do ADDers have more grey matter in their brain?
Aspects of this conjecture lie in the very intangible psycho-spiritual realm; it is not, and probably will never be, researched.
Narcissists want what the introverts have. It makes them angry that they cannot have such a strong self identity, values, convictions. They loathe us. They see this in us and consciously or unconsciously prey on us. They want to break us - so that ultimately, our soul, or 'self' is attributed to them *because* they have no identity, sense of self outside that which is derived only from relationships and interaction w/others. Our sense of self is so strong, narcissists are naturally attracted to that (since their whole identity comes from others) in a plight to feel closer to the soul.
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