Posted by Moishe Pipik on August 16, 2013, at 8:45:37
In reply to Re: change, posted by Dr. Bob on August 16, 2013, at 2:53:41
> > As with culture, people want things to be their way, and feel it's OK to insist that others do so. Only with the acceptance that this is unreasonable and impossible will any true dialogue occur. In society, people want stupid laws to guarantee their way; with Babble, it's the "report" button and the rules. It seems so simple to too many that rules fix things. That's not simple; it's simplistic. People need to learn the value of DOING NOTHING.
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> > It's just like marriage/family/friendship - people will say and do stuff that you don't like, but what right do you have to tell them what not to do or say? It's only when we realize that our family, etc. doesn't have to mirror us in order for there to be communication, love and peace. It's not their responsibility to change for us; it's our responsibility not to expect it.
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> Rules don't fix everything, but they do fix some things. Sometimes it's best to do nothing, but sometimes it's best to do something.
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> Others will do stuff you don't like. You can tell them what not to do, or you can accept what they did -- or you can use an I-statement to tell them how it affected you and start a true dialogue.
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> BobYes, Bob, that's what I'm talking about. I think it's about learning to live in all that grey between the black and the white, which is an almost constant state of cognizant dissonance. It's not really such a bad place to be, once you start to accept the basic reality of it.
poster:Moishe Pipik
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