Posted by fleeting flutterby on July 10, 2008, at 12:05:45
In reply to Re: Posting under a new name, thanks » fayeroe, posted by 10derHeart on July 7, 2008, at 11:00:25
> Well, yes, that's the idea. In many cases - vast majority I'd say. Thus no requirement in the FAQ to say who you used to be. Sort of a compromise - let the community know you're not a newbie, but to also allow for the anonymity of a new name if the posters wishes....
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> The challenge is to maintain that anonymity, though. I find peoples' 'voices' here are for the most part, quite unique and unfortunately, when they *want* to sort of - start over - identifiable. Not always, of course, but often it's a really, really hard thing to disguise "yourself" if you've been writing somewhere for a while.
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> It is disconcerting to me at times, too, to not be quite sure who you are talking to...but OTOH I'm glad it's available, especially to those whose posting names get "outed" by family, friends, etc. (in some cases people will say others then come to Babble and read everything they post once they find out the name....) and they feel the only other option is to completely leave. Or, there have been posters who are very anxious their therapists have discovered/know their posting names and might read, or.....any number of reasons I've heard over the years here.
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> No perfect solutions/rules...<<Hey there all,
I appreciate the explanation given here. ^^^^
Being here only a few months and then also not very active, I'd wondered why people would post their new name but not the old one so some of us that are newer or not so active or struggle to keep up with things(like me) would be better able to keep the previous connection with this member. I now understand how it could be beneficial if someone else has "tracked" a member down-- like a family member or therapist -- and that person doesn't want others in their 3-D life to read things they've posted.....
but.....*sigh*...... it does make it hard for me to attempt to connect with members as I can be unsure if I even know this person or not.... sheesh.... kind of feels like the confusing life(my 3-D life) that I so need a break from. oh well, it's me and my situation.
Mostly wanted to thank you for posting this explanation-- it does make some sense to me... and it's always a good thing --
being a little less in the dark. ;o)flutterby-mandy
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