Posted by Lou PIlder on June 25, 2008, at 8:36:54
In reply to Re: suggestions and solutions, posted by Dr. Bob on April 25, 2008, at 23:57:08
> > We have previously mentioned a number of things which we thought would be helpful; I, for one, was hoping that you would give your views about them, perhaps improve upon them, and open a dialogue with us about what the problems actually were that led to the crisis, and how we can avoid having it happen again.
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> Regarding the specific interesting dynamic that you mentioned, I'd like regular posters who want to help and think they can to feel free to do so. They don't need to wait for the deputies. The deputies will appreciate the help. They can't be everywhere all the time.
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> What can a regular poster do to help? I especially like a number of the suggestions that were posted before:
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> > supportive efforts towards posters who begin to feel too anxious or unsafe to post, and calming, reassuring efforts towards posters who are feeling angry, unappreciated or misunderstood here.
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> > twinleaf
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> > 3. In a time of crisis, I think it would be really nice to see the deputies and the "older members" lend themselves to calming the members that are obviously very upset.
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> > 4. Diffusing a situation shows compassion and the poster knows they have been heard.
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> > 7. It would be really cool if by looking at what has happened in the past few days the posters could committ to not "stirring the pot" as that is very upsetting to people who want to see a solution...not more conflict.
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> > fayeroe
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> > One thing that could be useful is that if someone is posting in an angry manner, that someone writes to him/her and asks in a friendly way if there is anything wrong because the posts come across as angry.
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> > Sigismund
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> And of course it helps to be civil. :-)
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> With all that, I think there would be less need for administrative action. Ideally, there wouldn't be any! But this isn't an ideal board, so I'd like posters to notify us if something might be brewing. That way, if administrative action does become necessary, we'll be ready.
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> How does that sound?
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> BobMr. Hsiung,
You wrote,[...I'd like..posters who want to help...to do so.They don't need to wait for the deputies....I'd like posters to notify us...That way...we'll be ready...]
I am unsure as to why then some notifications of mine are outstanding and also some emails from me to you are outstanding. I am requesting that for me to have a clearer understanding of your policy here and your rationale(s) in regards that your TOS writes that you welcome feedback and that you do what in your thinking will be good for he community as a whole and that you want us to trust you about that and that you take responsibility for what you write here and now you have posted that poster notifications can help the administration to {be ready}. If you could post here replies to the following concerns of mine, then I could have the opportunity to try to undertsand what you reply to me with in regards to why some of my notifications and emails to you are outstanding and respond accordingly.
A.Could you post here as to what psychiatric/psychological practice, if any, there could be in the liturature that you know of that could support leaving a notification, or a request to you for a rationale or clarification or identification concerning your policy and such, which I consider has the potential to be considered to be like a notification, of mine or from another member outstanding that purports that my notification being outstanding will be good for the community as a whole? If you could post here a link to an article, if you know of one, of some related nature from a journal of psychiatry/psychology, then I could have the opportunity to respond accordingly.
B. Of the outstanding notifications and requests from me to you for you to post your criteria or rational(s) for what you have posted here in regards to your TOS and policy for clarification to just ask you for your rationale and that you welcome feedback and take responsibility for what you write here and such, could you take into account and consideration in any reply to me that I consider a request for you to post your rationale(s) or criteria that you use such as those criteria that you use to determine as to if a statement does or does not lead someone of a group to feel put down? If you could, then I could have the opportunity to respond accordingly and this could in my opinion help the administration to be ready as you have posted in regards to the statement in question here, for I consider myself to be in the catagory of those posters that want to help as in the statement in question here and I believe that my notifications/requests for criteria/rational(s) have, if replied to, the potential to be of a helpfull nature here.
Lou Pilder
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