Posted by Dr. Bob on April 25, 2008, at 23:57:08
In reply to Re: an interesting dynamic » Dr. Bob, posted by twinleaf on April 24, 2008, at 9:55:05
> We have previously mentioned a number of things which we thought would be helpful; I, for one, was hoping that you would give your views about them, perhaps improve upon them, and open a dialogue with us about what the problems actually were that led to the crisis, and how we can avoid having it happen again.
Regarding the specific interesting dynamic that you mentioned, I'd like regular posters who want to help and think they can to feel free to do so. They don't need to wait for the deputies. The deputies will appreciate the help. They can't be everywhere all the time.
What can a regular poster do to help? I especially like a number of the suggestions that were posted before:
> supportive efforts towards posters who begin to feel too anxious or unsafe to post, and calming, reassuring efforts towards posters who are feeling angry, unappreciated or misunderstood here.
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> twinleaf> 3. In a time of crisis, I think it would be really nice to see the deputies and the "older members" lend themselves to calming the members that are obviously very upset.
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> 4. Diffusing a situation shows compassion and the poster knows they have been heard.
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> 7. It would be really cool if by looking at what has happened in the past few days the posters could committ to not "stirring the pot" as that is very upsetting to people who want to see a solution...not more conflict.
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> fayeroe> One thing that could be useful is that if someone is posting in an angry manner, that someone writes to him/her and asks in a friendly way if there is anything wrong because the posts come across as angry.
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> SigismundAnd of course it helps to be civil. :-)
With all that, I think there would be less need for administrative action. Ideally, there wouldn't be any! But this isn't an ideal board, so I'd like posters to notify us if something might be brewing. That way, if administrative action does become necessary, we'll be ready.
How does that sound?
Bob
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