Posted by Dr. Bob on April 28, 2008, at 11:47:56
In reply to Re: we get to holler » fayeroe, posted by fayeroe on April 27, 2008, at 23:42:37
> I do admit that while I might not like the things that come with detachment and imperviousness to hurt, I would still like to have those. I hurt way too much and am way too interpersonally sensitive. But it's just my perception that you're invulnerable. Lots of people IRL see me as snobby and aloof and unhurtable, and don't realize how much it's just a shield against being too vulnerable.
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> Your persona of invulnerability may make me want to yell and scream and kick and dent it a bit, and get a reaction from you, any reaction at all. I'd behave much better if you showed a bit of vulnerability. :)
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> But I also do envy it. It would be nice to never be sucked into vortexes, and never feel hurt by what people say.
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> There. I've been entirely honest.
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> How about some reciprocity?
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> Do we have anything you want?
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> DinahI do feel hurt by what people say sometimes. I'm not really invulnerable. I'm glad you understand that's a persona/perception. Why posters might want to dent it is a good question, and might be worth discussing either here or at Psychology.
The subject line refers to one thing I don't have here, I don't get to holler. Or to form the kinds of relationships posters get to. We're all limited by our roles here.
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> nuther thing bout power....
> is that Bob gets to choose the battles. He picks what he wants to respond to and ignores that which he doesn't.
> He can keep archivees forever.
> He can use them in his work.
> He can block at will.
> He has noone to answer to but himself.
> If it gets ugly here he can just walk away.
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> MPosters also have the power to choose battles, walk away, or not be sucked into vortexes.
And I don't block at will. There are limits to my power, or at least to what I do with it. That said, there's no denying that I still do have a lot of power.
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> what matters to me is this..i think that you can do better by us. i don't buy the mantra of how busy you are, you have a life, blah, blah, blah that some people subscribe to.
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> i believe that if i created a garden and never watered or weeded it......i'd have some unhappy plants and in my case, that would cause unhappiness for me. are you unhappy? or just disconnected from us?
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> you can do better and i would like to see less detachment, less questions to answer questions and some feelings that come from down around your chest region. thinking with your head isn't as rewarding as thinking with your heart. do you have a heart? i hope so.
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> PatYou don't believe I have a life? :-)
I'm unhappy when my plants are unhappy. At the same time, I see this online human garden as having the potential to water and even to weed itself. To a large extent.
Would it make a difference to think of this as a prairie rather than a garden?
Bob
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