Posted by Dinah on April 27, 2008, at 13:46:41
In reply to Re: we get to holler, posted by Dr. Bob on April 27, 2008, at 13:20:29
I don't mind discussing it, Dr. Bob. It's the sort of thing I enjoy doing.
But honestly, aside from the things I deduce from you from your posts (your detachment and seeming lack of hurt from personal attacks for example), I don't spend all that much time imagining what you have.
You're intelligent, obviously. But intelligence is not something that I would want, precisely. I'm comfortable there. You seem to have a sly sense of humor. And while I appreciate it, it's again nothing I would feel envy for. I am assuming you don't mean worldly possessions. So power? Is it power you're going for?
I'm perfectly happy with your having power and my having much less power. I have power over myself and my reactions. Your power over the site seems meet and fitting to me. You own it. It's yours. However much I might yell at you from time to time over your decisions, I would not want your power or your responsibility.
I do admit that while I might not like the things that come with detachment and imperviousness to hurt, I would still like to have those. I hurt way too much and am way too interpersonally sensitive. But it's just my perception that you're invulnerable. Lots of people IRL see me as snobby and aloof and unhurtable, and don't realize how much it's just a shield against being too vulnerable.
Your persona of invulnerability may make me want to yell and scream and kick and dent it a bit, and get a reaction from you, any reaction at all. I'd behave much better if you showed a bit of vulnerability. :)
But I also do envy it. It would be nice to never be sucked into vortexes, and never feel hurt by what people say.
There. I've been entirely honest.
How about some reciprocity?
Do we have anything you want?
Vulnerability, emotional honesty, the ability to say what we think? Connection with each other. Complexity? I'm just throwing a few things out there to start you off.
Sure it's a loaded question, and may carry a lot of baggage and feel like a trap. But sometimes loaded questions bring many rewards.
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