Posted by Estella on August 3, 2006, at 11:57:05
In reply to Re: shelter, posted by Dr. Bob on August 3, 2006, at 8:04:04
> > if I was overly sheltered here (and wanted to be), I might expect to be sheltered in real life too, and when things didn't turn out that way, I would end up being more upset.
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> I think most people know what "real" life is like before they even get here...
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> > Over time, I might withdrawl from real life and my only social interaction would be these boards, where I am sheltered.
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> If someone gets their needs met online, is that a bad thing?
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It is if it leads them to forsake opportunities IRL.
it is if it leads them to spend their time here instead of pursuing opportunities IRL.
It is is it leads them to live their lives on boards instead of IRL.People have a need for human contact. Touch and the like. You can't get those needs met on boards. IRL has different rules such as... Reciprocity. The ability to put on a happy face. The fact that you are stuck with (so to speak) a smaller group of people and you can't just flit off into conversations as the mood takes you...
I think there are important skills one needs to navigate IRL that aren't adequately minicked on boards... At least... Not on large city boards...
poster:Estella
thread:670602
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