Posted by alexandra_k on November 8, 2004, at 16:11:06
In reply to Re: Help inform professionals about online groups, posted by annamaynot on November 2, 2004, at 8:55:32
I have found that babble gives me the opportunity to practice responding rather than reacting to others. Because we aren’t face to face and we write rather than speak we have the opportunity to really think about our posts before hitting ‘submit’. Not that I think about them as much as I should sometimes, but I guess that we all do have that opportunity.
I have learned a lot from Babble. About validating others. About patience (students board), tolerance (faith board), forgiveness, and I suppose I have a constant struggle with rules / limits – especially understanding the civility rules. I don’t really have many interpersonal skills around conflict resolution and so I think it is good for me to learn how to deal with conflict appropriately in a more thoughtful setting, and hopefully it will become second nature and will generalise back to real time conversations.
There does seem to be quite a bit of conflict on Babble. Maybe it is inevitable given the size and nature of the group, or maybe not – I don’t know. I avoid conflict in the real world because I associate it with physical violence and verbal abuse. But physical violence and verbal abuse aren’t things that I have to worry about with Babble so I guess it is a relatively safe setting for me to get some exposure to conflict and hopefully learn some skills around conflict resolution.
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