Posted by Dinah on August 6, 2004, at 10:23:43
In reply to Re: cont.d (The problem I see), posted by Kali Munro on August 5, 2004, at 21:04:11
And I believe you've hit the root of the problem, as it as always been for me at least. I need to remember that any given poster that I don't really know hasn't much ability to hurt me. (Posters that I have grown to know and care for have the ability to hurt me, of course.) It's Dr. Bob finding it civil that adds the pain to what they say, and causes me to respond to them.
I think that a lot of the solution for me is to try to remove Dr. Bob's actions from the equations, and remember that the poster does not assume extra power over me because of Dr. Bob's administrative actions.
I don't think I can learn to completely ignore the poster, tho. :) I think a supportive word directed to the poster who may have felt hurt may outweigh the risk of encouraging the troublesome poster. I know that a simple word of support from another poster helps me feel calmer and puts the post that upset me into perspective. But I'll try harder to make the post clearly supportive, but without adding gratification to the troublesome poster. Oooh. That's a tough post to write. :)
poster:Dinah
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