Posted by monkey-d on July 9, 2004, at 16:25:54
In reply to Re: Need help!, posted by Harlock on July 9, 2004, at 12:54:15
Thanks to you all for all the support.I can't tell you how much it helps talking to people who are going through similar feelings and emotions. This is a difficult time for me, I have not only lost my husband but the person I am closest too. Like I said, he is my best friend and I only want the best for him, even if this isn't the withdrawls and it is me, I just want him to be happy in life.....What I didn't mention in my original post was that he did the same thing 10 years ago (almost exactly to the date). He left saying he "never loved me" and a month later he was back. Then being different because he wasn't on any kind of meds back then....Every year at this time he goes through a deep depression...Now he is saying he only came back into my life and has stayed for the 10 years due to "guilt". Why he would feel "guilt" is beyond me, we dont have kids and life would have been easier to start over back then....I don't want to bank on the fact that this is just him needing to go through this because in the end I need to think about myself. But the facts do point towards depression and/or withdrawls. Last year not only did his dad get diagnosed with Lung Cancer, Suffer and die from it in which my husband took very good care of him the last month of his life. My mom was diagnosed (actually the DAY prior to my father-in-law)with breast cancer, treated and is now she is fine. And not to mention I suffered a miscarrage after going through fertility treatments. Then earlier this year both of the businesses we own were doing bad and we were on the verge of Bankruptcy. Then we are at the end of the road with the fertility treaments with no success (in which has to be hard on him also being the overacheiver that he is and always meeting his goals in life)and by the way now says he "never wanted a child". With all this in mind then he comes to the time of year in which he suffers from depression the most and stops taking his Effexor. From the outside it sounds like he might come around, but again, dont want to get my hopes up. He also tells me he felt this way about me when he was taking Effexor....Again thanks for all the responses, it really helps to talk.
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