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Posted by JenStar on April 27, 2005, at 21:09:03
hi all,
since Mother's Day is coming up (in the US), what are you giving, getting, or planning?I'll be getting my mom & grandma flowers, probably -- I'll have them sent since they live in different states than I do.
Do you have any creative ideas? Are you planning anything fun? Do your kids make you stuff?
Just wondering!
JenStar
Posted by sunny10 on April 28, 2005, at 10:53:39
In reply to Mother's Day ideas?, posted by JenStar on April 27, 2005, at 21:09:03
Posted by Minnie-Haha on April 28, 2005, at 11:33:19
In reply to Mother's Day ideas?, posted by JenStar on April 27, 2005, at 21:09:03
Well, if you have a decent relationship with her and it's doable, I think the No. 1 thing mothers like to get is their kids' time! My mom used to love it when I'd come pick her up and take her to a botanical garden or something like that. Mature women have so many things that there shelves and closets are often bursting, so I used to hold off buying her things that she had to find a place for. The exception to this might be books (my book bias showing) or if she collects things, then an addition for her collection might be nice. I did often get flowers, or take her out for a meal, something like that. I really miss her.
As for my kids, my grown-up son (he's 26 and headed for Iraq this summer and I'm trying not to get sick about it) usually sends me a card. My young son (11) usually makes something at school, but he starts middle school next year, so that will probably stop after this year.
Posted by rainbowbrite on April 28, 2005, at 21:19:13
In reply to Mother's Day ideas?, posted by JenStar on April 27, 2005, at 21:09:03
I will probably get my mom something at a spa, a facial...oh better yet a mother daughter spa day and ill get her to treat me since Im getting hers lol just kidding, but spas are wonderful ideas!
Posted by chemist on April 28, 2005, at 21:25:17
In reply to Mother's Day ideas?, posted by JenStar on April 27, 2005, at 21:09:03
hello there, chemist here....it is very clear that i need to stop by this board more often, as i was not aware that mother's day was looming...thanks to all! best, chemist
> hi all,
> since Mother's Day is coming up (in the US), what are you giving, getting, or planning?
>
> I'll be getting my mom & grandma flowers, probably -- I'll have them sent since they live in different states than I do.
>
> Do you have any creative ideas? Are you planning anything fun? Do your kids make you stuff?
>
> Just wondering!
>
> JenStar
>
>
Posted by TofuEmmy on April 28, 2005, at 22:55:04
In reply to Mother's Day ideas?, posted by JenStar on April 27, 2005, at 21:09:03
If my mom were alive now, I'd just talk to her. REALLY talk. I'd share my heart with her. I'd tell her about my worries and my joys. And I'd ask 1000 questions about her childhood, her life, and about her worries and joys.
I'd take pictures of us together. I'd hold her hand, and take a picture of that too. I'd build memories, cuz you never know when she might just disappear.
I know that not everyone has a good relationship with their mom, but if it's at all possible, and desirable -- perhaps you could spend some time trying to patch things up before time slips away.
Hugs to all the moms.
emmy
Posted by gardenergirl on April 29, 2005, at 8:33:22
In reply to Re: Mother's Day ideas?, posted by TofuEmmy on April 28, 2005, at 22:55:04
Posted by littleone on May 12, 2005, at 21:41:38
In reply to Re: Mother's Day ideas?, posted by TofuEmmy on April 28, 2005, at 22:55:04
Thank you for the below post emmy.
I've cut off contact with my family since I've been working on abuse/neglect issues in therapy. I find it too difficult to work on those issues and have such superficial relationships with my parents.
My T was encouraging me to not see my mum for mother's day, something I felt very conflicted and guilty about.
After reading your email, I decided to bite the bullet and see her. We strolled around the botanical gardens for a couple of hours which was good because we could talk about the plants instead of about us or anything in our lives. So it was still very superficial, but nice to see her.
And she really appreciated spending some time with me.
I wouldn't have done that without your post, so thank you emmy.
I'm sorry that it is such a difficult day for you. I hope you had a nice friend or someone to share the day with. You're such a sweet person.
> If my mom were alive now, I'd just talk to her. REALLY talk. I'd share my heart with her. I'd tell her about my worries and my joys. And I'd ask 1000 questions about her childhood, her life, and about her worries and joys.
>
> I'd take pictures of us together. I'd hold her hand, and take a picture of that too. I'd build memories, cuz you never know when she might just disappear.
>
> I know that not everyone has a good relationship with their mom, but if it's at all possible, and desirable -- perhaps you could spend some time trying to patch things up before time slips away.
>
> Hugs to all the moms.
>
> emmy
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