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Posted by tina on July 9, 2003, at 20:37:07
vascillating between angry and weepy, homicidal rage and pathetic wimp.
I just want it all to STOP!!!!!!
I know I have to get a lawyer but my feet seem to be rooted to the ground. I picked up the phone 10 times today and stared at the phone numbers but I can't get my fingers to dial. It's like there's a physical barrier that flies up in front of me and I can't move, I can't think and I totally close up.
I'm so lost and confused and I'm having so much trouble sorting out what's going on in my head. Should i even think about going to a lawyer when I feel so damn confused?
God, I want to swear sooooo bad!$%#@!^%$^&^*&()
Too much stress. Too much everything.
Posted by mair on July 9, 2003, at 20:58:53
In reply to So sick and tired of being like this, posted by tina on July 9, 2003, at 20:37:07
You wrote:
"Should i even think about going to a lawyer when I feel so damn confused?"Absolutely. Any domestic relations lawyer is going to understand your state of confusion, and should be able to help you sort through the stuff you need to be thinking about from the stuff that really is unimportant now. Also I would think it would help tremendously for you to have your own advocate - someone who's only role is to champion your cause. I'm sure you must be feeling alone and isolated.
People rightly moan and groan about the sluggish court system (everyone's court system operates too slowly to suit most people), but i actually think that to a point, time is an ally in divorce matters. Most people need time to deal with all of the emotional issues before they can really make informed decisions about more practical considerations like property splits. A good divorce attorney should see this and should protect you from making quick decisions that are purely emotion-based.
By all means make those phone calls, and of course always let us know how we can help.
Mair
Posted by fallsfall on July 10, 2003, at 9:15:05
In reply to So sick and tired of being like this, posted by tina on July 9, 2003, at 20:37:07
When I went to see my lawyer I felt so relieved. Here was someone (a competent someone) who knew all the parts of divorce that I didn't. He was going to know the questions to ask, and what decisions needed to be made. Of course, I had to answer the questions and make the decisions, but he helped me see what the options were and the benefits of each option. It was like he was able to organize me when I was feeling that I was a total mess. It was very calming.
Do you know a good lawyer to call? You might feel more comfortable if your lawyer was referred to you by someone you trust. I got my lawyer's name from my Financial Advisor - so referrals can come from lots of places.
My lawyer kept things moving. He was good about giving me time to decide about things - but he didn't give me forever. It worked really well.
I think you'll feel better after you make the call. Good Luck!
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