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Posted by ~Alii~ on May 11, 2003, at 23:39:02
....thank you for your kind words in e-mail today. It was a shock to the system to say the least and I'm still icing my lip several hours after the incident.
At least the process of the legal issues begin tomorrow with the women's crisis center in my town.
The words really really did make a difference in the shocked irrational state I was in after such an out of the blue assault.
I appreciate the kindness and wisdom you have all shared.
Namasté
~A. still shocked but beginning to see that this was his true colours coming out and anyone that hits a woman (or any person of any gender) just shows they are an insecure coward.
Posted by lostsailor on May 12, 2003, at 0:41:07
In reply to Pax, Wendy and Zo...., posted by ~Alii~ on May 11, 2003, at 23:39:02
Just by this one part of another incident, I commend you on 'seeing the light"
I hope that I am not prying but you seem to be doing the right thing.
Don't just let him say I'm sorry and it won't happen again...
In peace,
~tony
Posted by ~Alii~ on May 12, 2003, at 10:15:42
In reply to Re: Pax, Wendy and Zo....__alii, posted by lostsailor on May 12, 2003, at 0:41:07
> Just by this one part of another incident, I commend you on 'seeing the light"
>
> I hope that I am not prying but you seem to be doing the right thing.
>
> Don't just let him say I'm sorry and it won't happen again...
>
> In peace,
> ~tony
Thank you Tony for your kind words. My resolve is crystal clear and I am 40 minutes from going to the local crisis support center to get the restraining order process done. I have no room in my heart for a violent shark who smelled the blood and hit me when I was down so to speak (recently I've had many serious health issues come up and I am literally a shadow of my former self) that is 100% clear.I shall not change my mind. But the sad part is the shame I now feel having to go to the crisis center and show them my face and do the paperwork. I'm ashamed that I allowed him to get a punch in...I'm smarter than that or so I thought.
Namasté
Alii
Posted by noa on May 12, 2003, at 18:33:25
In reply to Pax, Wendy and Zo...., posted by ~Alii~ on May 11, 2003, at 23:39:02
Alii!!
Oh, my. How awful!!
I hope you get the help and support you need now.
Posted by noa on May 12, 2003, at 18:38:52
In reply to lostsailor, posted by ~Alii~ on May 12, 2003, at 10:15:42
>>I'm ashamed that I allowed him to get a punch in...I'm smarter than that or so I thought.
>
> Namasté
> Alii
Alii, please don't do that to yourself. You ARE smart. That is why you are getting the help you need now that you do know what he is capable of. It is too much to expect yourself to have predicted and dodged his fist. Don't take the responsibility for that. You cannot possibly have been responsible for something he did to you. What you can do, and it certainly sounds like you are doing, is to take responsibility for your choices that are in front of you now. But leave the responsibility for the assault where it belongs--with the assailant.Take care.
Posted by Greg on May 12, 2003, at 19:01:43
In reply to Re: lostsailor » ~Alii~, posted by noa on May 12, 2003, at 18:38:52
Alii,
Noa is right, you are not, by any stretch of the imagination, responsible for this assault on you. You shouldn't be ashamed, your assailant however, should be. You'll have enough to deal with without taking on the responsibility for a situation of which you had no control. Please don't do that to yourself, okay? Just keep yourself safe now. I'll keep you in my thoughts.
Be strong,
Greg
Posted by wendy b. on May 12, 2003, at 23:59:47
In reply to Pax, Wendy and Zo...., posted by ~Alii~ on May 11, 2003, at 23:39:02
Posted by ~Alii~ on May 14, 2003, at 21:01:47
In reply to Re: will check in w/you (nm) » ~Alii~, posted by wendy b. on May 12, 2003, at 23:59:47
Not doing so well. Rather shut down. Not taking calls and not going to therapy this week...group or individual. Trying not to judge myself for whatever reaction this is.
I'm sleeping too much as a coping mechanism....just shut down...shallow breathing and all.
...crawling back to couch...
~A.
Posted by ~Alii~ on May 19, 2003, at 17:36:29
In reply to Re: Alii, posted by Greg on May 12, 2003, at 19:01:43
> Alii,
>
> Noa is right, you are not, by any stretch of the imagination, responsible for this assault on you. You shouldn't be ashamed, your assailant however, should be. You'll have enough to deal with without taking on the responsibility for a situation of which you had no control. Please don't do that to yourself, okay? Just keep yourself safe now. I'll keep you in my thoughts.
>
> Be strong,
> GregI'm still in rather a spin over this but trying to keep perspective by reaching out to others. I guess awareness that one is not in any shape to make judgements or decisions is a good thing.
I'm functioning on the most minimal level...people are concerned but I'll figure way out as I usually do.
Thank you for kindness. Thanks Tony and Wendy and e-mail crew too. I am blessed with good perspective from this board when I'm spinning wildly out of rational thoughts and actions.
~alii
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