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Posted by rjlockhart37 on March 20, 2019, at 20:30:32
i'm curious to ask, how is your relationship with your therapist, would like friendship or more empathy
Posted by rjlockhart37 on March 21, 2019, at 20:02:20
In reply to relationship with you therapist, posted by rjlockhart37 on March 20, 2019, at 20:30:32
relationship sounded too wierd, i just ment like support, as in like friendship to call to talk too during hard times
but maybe this won't get very many posts but my thapist before, i don't go to therapist much, mainly because the funds are low, and i'm just learning how to create a beautiful mind through insight and journaling
this post is open if you want to just leave a little reply, would love to hear from someone
Posted by baseball55 on March 22, 2019, at 17:55:28
In reply to new name : therapist support, posted by rjlockhart37 on March 21, 2019, at 20:02:20
A relationship with a therapist isn't like friendship at all. The boundaries are very clear - your relationship exists only in the office and, occasionally on the phone if you are in a crisis. Unlike a friend, the focus is on you and your problems/needs/concerns/feelings. It is not symmetrical. His/her issues are not discussed, except as they relate to you. I have had two therapists and they never told me their spouse's name or occupation, their home address, etc, etc. Basic info that we would know about a friend. It is a very one-sided relationship. But if you need help with issues in your life, it is very helpful to have someone you can confide in, without any fear of judgement and without them asking anything in return (except that they get paid).
Posted by rjlockhart37 on March 26, 2019, at 3:34:20
In reply to Re: new name : therapist support, posted by baseball55 on March 22, 2019, at 17:55:28
yeah, it is a once sided relationship....they just give you advice, and anylitical approach to emotions. I've seen 2 therapists in my life, first one was my teenage years and he listened and ... he was the best therapist ever during my teenage years, it was partly like a friend and call when needed he also colabroted with psychiatrist for medication. That was nealy 16 years ago, times change....seen more after but yeah it was just like word advice, they couldnt help the inner emotions that hit when i was on my own. I've had trauma happen, and put bits and pieces of it together, you know when something really traumatizing happens, you try to forget and go function without thinking about it, but it always comes up off guard... Learn to deal with it, and write it out and record it. There's no point in the doctor about the things happened, talk down to you ...make up diagnosis that i don't have. I think getting to know your therapist, and getting on a roll with me, both in goal and emotional trauma to heal.
Posted by rjlockhart37 on March 26, 2019, at 3:45:40
In reply to Re: new name : therapist support, posted by rjlockhart37 on March 26, 2019, at 3:34:20
its as it's been removed from memory, can't think about it or remember it, but somewhere in time it will pop up, like a trigger or a memory of it.
Posted by rjlockhart37 on April 2, 2019, at 2:56:34
In reply to Re: new name : therapist support, posted by rjlockhart37 on March 26, 2019, at 3:45:40
when i've seen therapists or psychiatrists some in the past, i wsant able to explain ... wha thappened, get real intense and have pressured speech, and the therapy is basically superficial because i don't go into detail or complexity in explaining what's going on. I write much better than i speak, you know some people go to a therapist and go into an ordered or explaining deep thoughts, i don't do that....i'm upfront and intense and that caused me to lose some of my therapists....
Posted by rjlockhart37 on April 5, 2019, at 23:11:47
In reply to Re: new name : therapist support, posted by rjlockhart37 on April 2, 2019, at 2:56:34
i think being a better person with or without a therapist is the best way to go, yes talking about past things that left an imprint. But i've gotta make myself better, and not complain. Making a model to live up too, and making new characteristics to be ready for better life
Posted by baseball55 on April 9, 2019, at 18:05:25
In reply to Re: new name : therapist support, posted by rjlockhart37 on April 5, 2019, at 23:11:47
> i think being a better person with or without a therapist is the best way to go, yes talking about past things that left an imprint. But i've gotta make myself better, and not complain. Making a model to live up too, and making new characteristics to be ready for better life
The thing is that it's hard to know what it means to be a better person or change characteristics without some objective observer to witness this. Our subjective appraisal of ourselves is often wrong. The benefit of therapy is that you have a non-judgemental objective witness (who also offers compassion) to help you figure out if you are meeting your goals.
Many people criticize therapists as being unhelpful, but the truth is that therapists can only be as helpful as you allow them to be. if you are convinced you can do it all yourself or that the problem is just needing better meds or the that you don't really want to change or that you are numbing yourself with drugs or alcohol, there's not really much a therapist can do. Some will keep seeing you any way. Most, probably. But my psychiatrist is pretty harsh here. If you're not willing/able to be honest and try to change, then he will just say "this isn't working" and refer you to someone with more patience.
Posted by rjlockhart37 on May 14, 2019, at 20:51:39
In reply to Re: new name : therapist support, posted by baseball55 on April 9, 2019, at 18:05:25
Posted by rjlockhart37 on May 15, 2019, at 0:32:07
In reply to Re: new name : therapist support, posted by baseball55 on April 9, 2019, at 18:05:25
i've been kinda away from society, not .. well situation, either i'm going to make a jump and find a job that could sustain to move. I think it is good for someone who is there watching you change, and supporting you. Don't take this as ... i don't...yet i've written tons of self improvement spirals, and i've created many things online that are catching attention of people. It is good to have sommeone there, and say im here for you. I leanrned some time ago, that i don't open up, i deal with what im going thruogh online projects and self improvement spirtals of recording goals, and .... it does kinda work. But still i have to deal with things on my own, i don't tell people. Maybe doing a jump and getting back into social scene, i just don't know how im going to do it.
willing to change, yes is a major factor, someone who doesnt .. they stay pessimistic, its like don't want to change. Drowing yourself in alcohol, and recreational drugs - you begin to rely on it, and then it will begin to change and doing addtive symptoms - leaving places early, being discreet about things, looking forward to the drug rather than life events..
i just...i have not seen counsel in a long time, and i just started learning on my own, the way i see therapist is they talk with you and help you understand things, but they are not there in life situations where you need friends to help you. I kinda rather see a psychiatrist than a therapist.
anyways....that was kinda babble,i've been away from society for a long time, and i've .. just started my own projects. And evnetually find a entry level position, or something im good at that i will not fall behind. Somtims i feel i'm left in in time, that i was suppost to go to college in 2005, to a university. I had set backs, and then more set backs. I just feel that somehow part of me is still waiting to go to college, like i was 14 years ago. There's time stamps, 2005, 2001 when i graduated in 8th grade with all ny friends, getting ready for high school. There's just time stamps that feel left back in time, waiting ... i think i'm the only person now that has to solve this dilema, being on own. Thinking somehow a situation or a organization would see my hard work, and do a jump and everything happens at once.
Posted by rjlockhart37 on May 18, 2019, at 2:19:35
In reply to Re: new name : therapist support, posted by baseball55 on April 9, 2019, at 18:05:25
I have had 2 psychiatrists, that kicked me to the curb, not kidding it as traumatizing, all i can say is karma will catch up with them. Being torn off medcines. Constant switching was not good.
But rerember being kicked the curb by those psychiatrist....
Posted by rjlockhart37 on August 28, 2019, at 0:51:30
In reply to Re: new name : therapist support » baseball55, posted by rjlockhart37 on May 18, 2019, at 2:19:35
i've been away and isolated from people for so long, don't have much funds to talk to a therapist, even online it would not do any good, they cannot get me out of the situation im in. The option without sarcasam is getting envolved with supernatural forces, that's the only thing that is gonna make things happen in the unseen relm. I've been alone and ... the amount of pain i've had by myself at home, going to supernatural forces is the only way to go. The unseen relm would consipire and work things out, at least i would know that i'm not alone, even though it's unseen. That feeling of being alone and .... i don't know what but that's the only thing i can do. I hpe this will lead somewhere in future
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