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Posted by Tabitha on November 5, 2003, at 0:18:54
In group tonight one guy was going on and on as usual about his estranged girlfriend. It's hard to listen to him because he makes it sound like he lets her walk all over him, yet when we try to point it out to him, he defends her. Tonight we confronted him a lot more directly. I actually said something like 'I feel frustrated and helpless because I don't know how to support you'.
I was shocked to hear something so appropriate-sounding come out of my mouth. I think of myself as much more likely to be sitting there holding my tongue thinking 'You're such a doormat I can't stand listening to you go on and on anymore'. It didn't feel fake, but I was so surprised to hear myself say it. Is that how I really feel? I'm not even sure. I don't know if therapy has taken root or I've just been successfully coached. It was odd, yet I was proud of myself.
Posted by Dinah on November 5, 2003, at 7:30:05
In reply to I was surprisingly appropriate in Group, posted by Tabitha on November 5, 2003, at 0:18:54
Posted by Poet on November 5, 2003, at 9:20:41
In reply to I was surprisingly appropriate in Group, posted by Tabitha on November 5, 2003, at 0:18:54
Tabitha,
You said exactly the right thing and you should be proud.
Poet
Posted by Medusa on November 5, 2003, at 15:27:36
In reply to I was surprisingly appropriate in Group, posted by Tabitha on November 5, 2003, at 0:18:54
Isn't it strange when these things happen?
How did he - and the others - react?
Posted by Tabitha on November 5, 2003, at 15:57:58
In reply to Re: I was surprisingly appropriate in Group » Tabitha, posted by Medusa on November 5, 2003, at 15:27:36
there was a lot going on. I asked if I was too harsh on him, for that and other stuff-- he said basically no. He had a lot more reaction to another woman whose comments were way more blunt than mine.
Posted by fallsfall on November 5, 2003, at 20:46:54
In reply to Re: I was surprisingly appropriate in Group » Medusa, posted by Tabitha on November 5, 2003, at 15:57:58
Good for you, Tabitha! You have come a very long way in a very short period of time.
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