Posted by Tabitha on November 5, 2003, at 0:18:54
In group tonight one guy was going on and on as usual about his estranged girlfriend. It's hard to listen to him because he makes it sound like he lets her walk all over him, yet when we try to point it out to him, he defends her. Tonight we confronted him a lot more directly. I actually said something like 'I feel frustrated and helpless because I don't know how to support you'.
I was shocked to hear something so appropriate-sounding come out of my mouth. I think of myself as much more likely to be sitting there holding my tongue thinking 'You're such a doormat I can't stand listening to you go on and on anymore'. It didn't feel fake, but I was so surprised to hear myself say it. Is that how I really feel? I'm not even sure. I don't know if therapy has taken root or I've just been successfully coached. It was odd, yet I was proud of myself.
poster:Tabitha
thread:276718
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