![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 9 of 9. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by Jai Narayan on September 10, 2006, at 22:47:33
I had no idea people on this site didn't like me or were saying things about me that were not friendly or kind.
talk about self esteem problems.
I give up.
the negative people win.
I feel less than okay.
Jai
Posted by Racer on September 11, 2006, at 1:17:09
In reply to cyber image, I am so defeated, posted by Jai Narayan on September 10, 2006, at 22:47:33
I don't know what you're talking about, so anything I say here is only general...
But here's my question: if people are saying things about you that "make" you feel less than OK, the first question to ask is, "Are the things those people are saying about you true?" If not, it's certainly not worth worrying about. Truly. Unless people have some power over your life, what they say isn't worth getting emotional about.
Which is not to say that you can't clarify or correct the misinformation. Only that it's not worth being upset about something you know isn't true.
If it is accurate, though, and you feel bad knowing people are saying it about you, then it's worth looking at a little more. If it's something you're already working on, you're done. No need to worry about it any more, or even think about it. If you're not working on it, is it something you want to work on? If it's something you accept about yourself, pat yourself on the back and realize that that's self-esteem. Being able to accept your imperfections as part of you.
Now that I've said all that, though -- I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I'm sorry if people really are saying things that you're feeling bad about. I hope you're misinterpreting something more innocent, though.
Peace.
Posted by ClearSkies on September 11, 2006, at 8:24:16
In reply to cyber image, I am so defeated, posted by Jai Narayan on September 10, 2006, at 22:47:33
(((Jai)))
I hope this is a misunderstanding - you are much loved!
CS
Posted by Poet on September 11, 2006, at 10:09:37
In reply to cyber image, I am so defeated, posted by Jai Narayan on September 10, 2006, at 22:47:33
Hi Jai Narayan,
I don't know who has said untrue things about you and demolished your cyber image, so I'm sending a generic cyber slap addressed to all those who have been mean to you.
A hard cyber slap.
I'm sorry you feel robbed of your self esteem. I know that feeling well.
Poet
Posted by Phillipa on September 11, 2006, at 12:58:16
In reply to Re: cyber image, I am so defeated » Jai Narayan, posted by Poet on September 11, 2006, at 10:09:37
Jai I second that a hard slap. But I know you have been nothing but kind to me. Who's hurting you? Love Phillipa
Posted by AuntieMel on September 11, 2006, at 15:43:41
In reply to cyber image, I am so defeated, posted by Jai Narayan on September 10, 2006, at 22:47:33
I have no idea either.
But it's not true. You are a great person.
Posted by Jai Narayan on September 11, 2006, at 20:14:21
In reply to Re: cyber image, I am so defeated » Jai Narayan, posted by AuntieMel on September 11, 2006, at 15:43:41
you all have made me feel so incredibly loved.
I am humbled by your responses.
I love you all.
Jai Narayan
Posted by shar on September 13, 2006, at 1:21:30
In reply to okay, I understand it was not true...., posted by Jai Narayan on September 11, 2006, at 20:14:21
Jai,
You are one of the folks I remember fondly. I have not posted much lately because things are SO BAD, and this is my first time at this (the Self Esteem) board--and to see you concerned...what bull!!What's not to like?! Good grief! Don't be doin' that to yourself, Little Missy! I'm way old, and know we are all in this together, and you are in my heart.
Anything else...ignore it!
xoxo
Shar
Posted by Jai Narayan on September 19, 2006, at 23:17:52
In reply to What on earth?!?, posted by shar on September 13, 2006, at 1:21:30
> Jai,
> You are one of the folks I remember fondly. I have not posted much lately because things are SO BAD, and this is my first time at this (the Self Esteem) board--and to see you concerned...what bull!!
>
> What's not to like?! Good grief! Don't be doin' that to yourself, Little Missy! I'm way old, and know we are all in this together, and you are in my heart.
>
> Anything else...ignore it!
>
> xoxo
> Sharthank you, dear heart. I absolutely know the truth of your love.
I am here. I fell prey to fear. But no more.
thanks so much for responding.
Jai
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Self-Esteem | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.