Posted by Racer on September 11, 2006, at 1:17:09
In reply to cyber image, I am so defeated, posted by Jai Narayan on September 10, 2006, at 22:47:33
I don't know what you're talking about, so anything I say here is only general...
But here's my question: if people are saying things about you that "make" you feel less than OK, the first question to ask is, "Are the things those people are saying about you true?" If not, it's certainly not worth worrying about. Truly. Unless people have some power over your life, what they say isn't worth getting emotional about.
Which is not to say that you can't clarify or correct the misinformation. Only that it's not worth being upset about something you know isn't true.
If it is accurate, though, and you feel bad knowing people are saying it about you, then it's worth looking at a little more. If it's something you're already working on, you're done. No need to worry about it any more, or even think about it. If you're not working on it, is it something you want to work on? If it's something you accept about yourself, pat yourself on the back and realize that that's self-esteem. Being able to accept your imperfections as part of you.
Now that I've said all that, though -- I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I'm sorry if people really are saying things that you're feeling bad about. I hope you're misinterpreting something more innocent, though.
Peace.
poster:Racer
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