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Posted by goody2shoes on July 30, 2006, at 16:35:18
hello! i've just found this site, and it looks like a very nice group! i've been hoping to join a site like this for a long time, so here goes...
my self-esteem issues go way back. i've never been "good enough," and when puberty came along i also realized that i'll never be attractive enough for anyone to like me. those thoughts have been ruling my life ever since, and that's a very long time!
my self-esteem is totally dependent on my appearance, which leaves me with none. i can't participate in conversations or meet new people because i know what they're thinking, and i just can't bear it.
people tell me i'm smart, funny, creative etc, but what good is that? those things aren't valued in today's society. (they'll tell you they are, but i have yet to truly see it)
i can't confide in anyone, because they think i'm just "fishing for compliments." i feel comfortable on the internet, but would like desperately to have a real life.
Posted by Declan on July 30, 2006, at 17:51:51
In reply to don't hate me because i'm...., posted by goody2shoes on July 30, 2006, at 16:35:18
Let's get today's society quickly out of the way by just saying it sucks.
Those thoughts about what constitutes attractiveness. I wonder where they come from.
From the society that sucks?
You are gifted with conciousness and our conciousness is always being invaded by rubbish.
Really, your life is a miracle, and look at what we fill our lives up with.
Complete and utter waste.Buddhists and Hindus say this is the start of the Kali Yuga, the age of horror and blood, mercifully short at only 60,000 years.
But anyway, you're participating in a conversation right now.
Nice to meet you.
Declan
Posted by Phillipa on July 30, 2006, at 23:02:04
In reply to Re: don't hate me because i'm.... » goody2shoes, posted by Declan on July 30, 2006, at 17:51:51
Why would I not like you? You seem like a lovely person. Beauty is skin deep. It's whats between the eyes that's important. Love phillipa and welcome
Posted by llrrrpp on July 31, 2006, at 15:06:48
In reply to don't hate me because i'm...., posted by goody2shoes on July 30, 2006, at 16:35:18
hi goody
nice to meet you :) welcomeDo you have any good friends? what do they look like? if they got a strange haircut would they be worse friends?
Think about the best teacher you ever had. Was s/he also a supermodel? did his/her attractiveness make him/her a better teacher?
Think about who will repair you if you ever get in a severe accident. Will you care if your surgeon has assymettrical features, is overweight, and dresses like a slob?
Think about who you will invite to your wedding- will you only invite pretty people?
IMO, the only people that should be judged by their appearance are people who are in positions where appearance matters. In professional fields, it's important to look professional. In academic fields, it's important to wear clothes. In the military it's important to wear your uniform properly.
In very few areas of life is true stunning beauty relevant or important. unfortunately, popular culture/celebrity worship/fashion/pop music tends to be one of those very few areas. Are you an MTV host? or a magazine model?
chances are if you take care of yourself, you're a very nice looking person, and there are very few opportunities that will be denied you because of your appearance. You will be able to fall in love, and people will fall in love with you. You will be able to have a satisfying career, and do many things that are important to you. Maybe you'll never be a runway model. The truth is that *most* beautiful people will never be runway models, either because of their age, or their height, or their weight, or because they don't want to be.
You're alright. really. You sound like you're better than alright, actually. you're pretty darned good.
:)
-ll
Posted by 10derHeart on July 31, 2006, at 17:05:07
In reply to Re: don't hate me because i'm.... » goody2shoes, posted by llrrrpp on July 31, 2006, at 15:06:48
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