Posted by alexandra_k on October 2, 2005, at 19:29:43 [reposted on October 5, 2005, at 21:44:46 | original URL]
In reply to Re: Deneb's OK now?, posted by Deneb on October 2, 2005, at 19:04:12
Methinks Deneb can be Deneb's own worst enemy...
When crisis hits...
It can be really very hard to figure out what to do.
That is why it can be helpful to have a crisis plan that is worked out between you and your doctor during a time when things are going well.
I know that the absolute last thing you want to do is think about hard times when times are good.
But it really can be worthwhile because it is so much easier to come up with a sensible plan when you are not in crisis.
Because when you are not in crisis you can think very sensibly indeed and are in a really good place to help figure out a best course of action for when things get bad.Now in the past...
When you were in a similar crisis situation...
You took an OD.
This time...
You didn't take an OD.
You went to see the doctor.
And so I really have to sayWELL DONE YOU!!!!!
Really :-)
Okay... So things didn't go as well as they might have been able to go... But things have improved a WHOLE HEAP. And you can see that things could be able to go a lot better... And for that WELL DONE YOU!!!!! Again.
:-)
So...
How can you be rid of your guilt???
I guess the first step is appreciating that YOU are feeling guilty for your actions.
But please don't let the guilt lead you to do something stupid because this time around you have been around a million times smarter than last time around.So that is progress.
Really.
I think that you would have the right to feel pleased with yourself for seeing the doctor over ODing.
And that you can feel pleased with yourself for that WHILE AT THE SAME TIME appreciating that things didn't go exactly perfectly... And that next time around you want the situation to go better still.
But for it to go better the next time around...
You really are going to have to have a look at what happened when this feeling has passed.I would say...
That in reparation...
You could write a note to the doctor.
About how sometimes you feel really panicky about things...
And about how very important it is to you to get through this...
And about how you think you have improved because you didn't OD this time - instead you contacted him.
And about how you appreciate that things didn't go perfectly.
And about how you would like to figure out a plan of action for crisis situations so that next time around things can go better still.Hang in there...
And remember...
Sometimes Deneb is Deneb's own worst enemy...
:-)
poster:alexandra_k
thread:563480
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