Posted by Ronnjee on March 7, 2014, at 8:56:17
In reply to Re: Nope. » Poet, posted by Partlycloudy on March 7, 2014, at 6:59:42
> Separation in our state is legal but has no bearing on the state of a marriage (!). Although my husband is pleading about being emotionally detached from me living down the hall, the real reason he has already shown against true separation is the additional cost it would incur. The tune changes according to the real estate.
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> My state splits assets 50/50, so I would be entitled to alimony. This was the sticking point when I was about to start proceedings before. My act of divorce would cut his retirement savings in half.
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> Somewhere in there is the truth.
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So, are you saying that if money wasn't an issue, the separation and divorce would be a LOT easier, and that otherwise it would've probably happened already? If so, I think you might have your answer. I suppose you need to decide which losses you need to cut - financial ones or emotional ones; yours, not his.I'm relatively certain that the 50/50 split is not forced upon a couple, unless a financial agreement cannot be agreed upon, in writing, in which case the judge decides. You and your STBX can, if you want to, make your own deal - that's what my wife and her ex did. Obviously, if you want the 50/50 and he doesn't, you'll need to rely on the legal remedy.
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