Posted by alexandra_k on January 1, 2014, at 21:12:04
In reply to Re: school starts on monday » alexandra_k, posted by Emme_V2 on January 1, 2014, at 18:52:06
> People try to be supportive in the best way they know how.yes. i suppose that is true. i've just had a whole lot of people saying they were helping over the years... but what they were doing was hurting.
> If you want a particular type of support (e.g., listening and validation) rather than another type (e.g., problem solving), then say so and I believe people will try to provide that.I want people to understand what I'm saying. Or if they don't understand, that is okay. Pretending to understand / saying they understand when they don't seem to isn't helping, though. It is hurting.
> It's okay to ask for what you need, especially on an Internet forum, where the back and forth is harder than if you were sitting with someone over coffee in person.
I don't find it harder.
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