Posted by Emme-V2 on October 2, 2011, at 8:26:09
In reply to Re: Should I have a child or not? » Emme-V2, posted by Dinah on October 2, 2011, at 2:10:23
> ((( Emme )))
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> Many of us wouldn't be on this site if parenthood had such a transformative effect.
>Thanks Dinah. You're very kind. And that was a very wise post above.
I think what you wrote about bringing all of our human-ness into parenthood makes a lot of sense. And as you said, people become parents with all different levels of maturity and capabilities for love and parenting.
I believe that I would have made a, how do they say that, "good enough mother". I might have adopted given the risks associated with the apparently genetic component of my mood disorder and my meds. But I felt that I would do it best with a partner, and I'm still looking for a mate. Some of my friends are single parents by choice, and they manage very well. That would probably not have been the best choice for me for a number of reasons, including my energy levels.
It's a huge loss, though. And what I feel on a personal level is compounded by our society's messages implying that your life has less value if you don't have kids.
Anyway, thanks again for your kindness.
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