Posted by janejane on December 16, 2009, at 6:14:13
In reply to Anybody there?, posted by roslynn on December 15, 2009, at 19:29:32
You're not alone, Roslynn. I'm depressed too, and am barely functional much of the time these days.
Please don't feel like a failure. Right now a lot of people are losing their jobs. I'm lucky enough to be clinging to mine, but I've been laid off in the past so I know how tough it can be. And having depression on top of that makes it a thousand times tougher.
Try to focus on getting better, and be extra nice to yourself. (You've got to do it, since it seems like it's not coming from your Mom.) You were on your own in the past, and you can get back to that place.
I don't know why your Mom is so controlling, but maybe you can try to reframe it in your mind as a positive, like think of it as her misguided way of trying to help. Instead of feeling frustrated, pity her. If that doesn't work, then try your best to ignore her as it doesn't do much good to let it bother you. Try to let it roll off your back. I think it's possible she won't do it as much if she doesn't get a rise out of you. (Some people just like to push your buttons.)
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