Posted by Dinah on August 3, 2009, at 21:28:23
In reply to I have a different problem these days, posted by Kath on August 3, 2009, at 21:11:42
Yes, there is that problem too. And cigarette smoke clings to everything!
I don't know how common it is. I do remember telling my music teacher "I don't like to be touched." in icy tones when he went to give me a bear hug. But since he turned out to be a pedophile, that probably was a good thing.
I trace it back to forced hugs and kisses with relatives on my father's side. Usually powdered and scented women or damp and beery men. My mother's people weren't big on social contact. I'd dread going anywhere I might meet them, and it was considered a deadly insult not to submit. They never seemed to notice that I was very unenthusiastic. In fact, my reluctance was met with increased demand. So make that insensitive, powdered, scented, damp and beery looming adults. I'm sad to say that's my main memory of some of them.
I daresay I'm remembering them as more distorted than they actually were.
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