Posted by Kath on July 2, 2009, at 16:20:37
In reply to Thank you, posted by Dinah on July 1, 2009, at 23:34:11
> My vet told my son today, in a perfectly serious tone of voice, that he had a wonderful mother, or something to that effect. It made me feel less like a murderer. (And my son seemed suitably impressed - although I'm sure he was skeptical.)
~ ~ ~ Well for goodness sake, you kept that little sweetie alive & happy for WAYYYYYYYYYY longer than anyone thought possible, no?
Of course you're wonderful. But I get how you might feel. When my son's little cat got very ill (only about 2 years old) & didn't want to eat, I was 'working with' a vet who was willing to do follow-up over the phone. She was emphasizing bigtime, how important it was to keep the cat fed. Kali didn't WANT to eat. I was force-feeding her with a needle-removed syringe. She just wanted to sit outside curled up in the sun. I'd bring her in & put her on the counter & she'd push my hand away with her weak little paw! I felt totally AWFUL. I was also keeping track of her temperature & checking in with vet. After some days it just became apparent to me that she was NOT getting better & my friend told me of her cat's awful experience of dying "naturally" & encouraged me that if I thought she was going to die, to have a vet help.
So I finally decided & the vet came to our house. But ya know, even to this day, like right now, when I think of it, I feel so dreadfully dreadful, mean, cruel & out-of-touch with Kali's true needs at the time. She knew she was ready & she just wanted to bask in the sun & fade. She was a real outdoor cat - LOVED going outside. And I'm sure the vet would have said I was wonderful! In hindsight it doesn't feel wonderful.
I'm glad the vet said that to your son.
luv, Kath
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