Posted by Kath on February 19, 2009, at 21:39:17
In reply to Thanks everyone :-)))))))), posted by Kath on February 19, 2009, at 20:40:46
I was working up to telling my son that I needed him to have some structure in his life - to DO something etc. I was having trouble knowing exactly how I'd word this etc. I wanted to be positive & not naggy, and assertive at the same time. I was feeling nervous about it but knew I HAD to say it (to take care of my needs).
And this afternoon, he started talking to me about how he feels has too much spare time & he's ready to go forward getting involved in a program offered by the YMCA. He even phoned & left a message for them to call him.
So I have learned from the past to not get TOO excited about it, but it's a positive move & I told him that the timing is good, because I was just working up to letting him know that it is NOT working for me that he doesn't have structure to his days....that it makes me feel unsettled & anxious & I'm really glad that he's come to a place where he plans to go forward.
So it just sort of worked out naturally how I got to say it!
So that was a nice birthday present!!
Kath
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