Posted by toph on September 3, 2008, at 17:06:03
In reply to What a jumble, and yet it all fits in, posted by Partlycloudy on September 3, 2008, at 16:34:57
After all the drama, the rejection, the hurtful exchanges, your step-daughter leaves knowing inside that you cared about her and endeavored to make a safe and loving home for her. Whatever dynamics you may have explained elsewhere, I know you a little bit pc, and I am certain you tried. I also know that irrational feeling of failure in the face of all your efforts as I too have described before when I had to leave my children. Know that under the veneer of rebellion and bitterness, deep inside, are the vestiges of your concern and gifts of parenting that she will use to find her place in the world. Hopefully she may acknowledge your contributions to her character and even perhaps thank you someday in some subtle way. I hope your husband appreciates how much you tried with your daughter and doesn't feed into the inevitable but unjust failure you feel.
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