Posted by Kath on February 3, 2008, at 17:13:20
In reply to Re: I need help in life, posted by Deneb on February 3, 2008, at 13:05:57
Baby steps Deneb! Have you seen the movie What About Bob? It's definitely worth seeing - with Bill Murray.
Anyhow, so - what if you start SMALL, by getting your Mom to help you learn how to cook; do laundry; plan meals; shop, etc. There's nothing wrong with not knowing these things.
How old are you Deneb? I'm sorry, but I can't remember.
Please try to stop comparing yourself to other people. It is SO counter-productive. If I compare myself to other people, my self-talk would be "oh great! Their late-teen, or early-twenty kids are going to college or university, or getting engaged...mine is brain-damaged from using too many drugs, is what is his future?" That isn't the LEAST bit positive or productive for me to do...so I CAN'T compare myself to others, - or if I do, I have to try to stop it!
Deneb - Believe me - you are doing SO much better than a year ago!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So you ARE improving in your life. You truly are.
If a mountain-climber is training, it makes no sense for them to look at a Mount Everest mountain climber. I'd say, look at yourself as YOU. You probably have qualities that your friends don't.....everyone is different. Being a good, caring person is, to my mind, more important than having your own home with 2 garages. And I see you as a good & caring person & sensitive (which you either have or you don't!! & although it can be painful to be sensitive, I think it's a very special thing & I DO see you as sensitive.
I've seen you developing over the past year (at least) & I think you have a right to be very proud of how you're doing.
I send you proud-of-you hugs, luv, Kath
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