Posted by Happyflower on February 2, 2008, at 15:10:31
In reply to Re: Learning who your friends are and are not » Happyflower, posted by Phillipa on February 2, 2008, at 11:26:54
I believe my mom wouldn't think twice, she has threatened about killing my husband, so I can be all alone and know how it feels. I have safe guards in place, my kids know not to answer the door if they don't know who it is. My mom knows how to change her looks so it is scary.
I think until one has to live through this, to really know what it is like to live with a untreated psychopath and to know the fear. My birthday is coming up and that is usually when she decides to appear in some form. It pisses me off that she has that much control over me and can easily make me feel very threatened. If someone lived the childhood I have, they would NEVER wish that upon anyone. But like my mom, you just don't ever know who you are really dealing with, when will their dark side really appear, there are signs though. The more I study about it, the more thankful I am alive today.
There are some groups of people I will not feel comfortable working with as a T, no matter how much training or desentization. My T avoids certain kinds of cases because he knows it is extremely hard to be objective, especially when you hear of the tortures they inflict on others and can laugh about it like it doesn't mean anything, they have no remorse, like my mom. My T says that is okay, you have to know you and what you can work with, the field is huge, most T's have a group they are less successful with and shouldn't work with, if they are honest with themselves.
I wish I could be naive again and believe there are good in everyone, but the world keeps proving me wrong. There is a LOT of good in the world, just not from everyone in my view. I lived with one that proved me that there wasn't nothing but evil inside. It is sad that she isn't the only case.
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