Posted by Kath on August 27, 2007, at 20:23:15
In reply to I'm glad you didn't walk away *triggers* » tofuemmy, posted by ClearSkies on August 23, 2007, at 8:39:48
You're all in my prayers! I'm glad her mother was there also. And glad he's been charged.
AND glad you've found your voice. I know what that feels like, having (for the most part) found mine...at least most of the time. Lately, if hubby reacts defensively etc to something I say & responds in a 'not cool' tone of voice that I have done/said NOTHING to deserve, I instantly (totally out of my control) say something (or even mutter) in the same tone of voice!!!!! It's sort of appalling to me, but I sort of LOVE it too, 'cuz I HAVEN'T done/said anything to deserve being spoken to like that!!! This is SUCH a different dynamic between us. I'm sure it shocks him as much as it shocks me!! I usually then say something totally normal in my normal voice & tend to carry on as if nothing at all has happened!! Jeeez - how embarassing sort of!
Anyhow, I am so sorry this is happening. I think you're taking it with amazing aplomb. (Had to look up the meaning to make sure it was the right word - it felt like it. It IS "self assurance; self confidence"). Inept as they are, I hope the work is soon finished. Wouldn't you love to have some sort of weight-activated or heat-activated device that sprays cayenne pepper or something vigorously up at them!!!
I send hugs, love, Kath
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