Posted by Kath on August 14, 2007, at 13:42:49
In reply to Gals...really need your help please!!, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on August 14, 2007, at 8:06:11
Sorry Jay,
I just skimmed the article. I think the guy's a first class jerk & his main purpose is to appeal to guys' insecurity so they'll view him as Mr. Hotstuff Gets Whoever He Wants - purpose? So guys will buy his books, attend his seminars, etc. & basically he'll make money.
I don't think I have the energy to go through each point with an answer.
I'll say it again. I really think that if you pursue what you're interested in, in life, meet like-minded folks, get to know them, hopefully be able to make friends with some, meet their friends, etc.....it'll broaden your base of people you know.
I say, be yourself. It's YOU that you want the woman to like, right? I'm sure it's pretty un-nerving - the whole dating thing. That's why I think that sliding from friendship into a relationship is way more comfortable & natural.
OK so maybe it doesn't have the same kind of 'sparks' happening at first.I think here are some thoughts:
Be sincere
Be interested in her
Ask about things she's interested in
KNOW that you're a special person (because you are) & don't worry about if she's going to like you or not. I do think that self-assurance probably attracts others while insecurity doesn't.
I'd say don't do the extravagance thing as to spending too much money; trying too much to impress as to clothes, etc.
Be as casual & relaxed as you can.
KNOW that with any particular woman, it might work & it might not. Try to view the date, or meeting etc as YOUR chance to see if you like HER enough to continue!!!!!! Not that you're on trial, but that you're taking your time deciding if SHE is good enough to deserve you spending your time getting to know her better!!! (Not in an egotistic way; just in a calm way.)
If you want any more of my VERY opinionated opinions, just ask me!
Hope I haven't come on too strongly or insulted you Jay. That's the last thing I'd want to do.
Warm smiles & hugs, Kath
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