Posted by Kath on August 3, 2007, at 18:08:01
In reply to Re: Goal: to set + hold firm healthy boundaries.., posted by Fivefires on August 3, 2007, at 0:18:12
> If his addiction is very bad, he needs someone to love him, one person to love him and not desert him.
>>>>>thanks. You're right. It's not okay for me to desert him. Maybe if he was physically or verbally violent with me or something, but he's NOT. He uses me - takes advantage of my good nature, that's for sure, but he's loving.>>>>>
> In 'my experience' turning your back only makes a person feel more alone and need more of a drug to make them feel whole.
>>>>>>>>that makes sense>>>>> RU in a position of losing your home, inability to pay bills, and buy food, because of his usage?
>>>>>>>>nope. Nothing like that at all. He's gotten in trouble a few times. He owes us a lot of money from the past, but more borrowing for first & last month rent, etc. Not drugs.>>>>>>
> My mother told me she wouldn't help me financially because she didn't have it to give. But then I found out she's gambling all the time, and she's bought another house (She has 4 or 5 of them now.), has land, has a business, and ...
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> she would not put the ring my father left me on her homeowner's policy for '$40 a year'. I asked her because I can't afford renter's insurance. I live on $900month, alone, and now abandoned.
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>>>>>>All that must feel horrible. Really awful.>>>>>> I'm sorry to have strayed Kath.
>>>>>>>>WHAT?!!! This doesn't have to be all about me! :-) >>>>>>
> My mother and fam let go. I'm suffering so badly. I reached for them and they pushed me backwards, turned around, and walked away from me.
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> This is why I've been so physically and emotionally sick lately.>>>>>I'm so sorry Fivef. I wish they didn't do that.>>>>
> I will still babble you tomorrow.
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> 5f>>>>>we're leaving for a cottage for a week tomorrow. Son is coming with us. I expect we'll enjoy it. We get along well together.
I send you love, Kath
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