Posted by Kath on February 6, 2007, at 11:23:12
In reply to All Done, Gabbi, Kath and anyone, posted by 10derHeart on February 5, 2007, at 10:37:04
Yes, - it can be pretty easy to misinterpret things that are typed instead of said. It can even be harder to 'read' things over the phone when I can't see people's expressions & body language.
:-) Kath
> Thanks, Laurie, I thought that was great. (Not that my opinion carries all that much weight....I'm still learning, too)
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> What helps me with part of that, is to try to remember to notice the pronouns used...like the "it" in this case, which just stands in for "your post." Sometimes it's easy to not notice what's being described with "it", "them", "they" and so on.
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> I guess maybe that phrase "I found" is a tough one to work with here, well, at least for me. It can be taken too many ways that might seem uncivil to some (eg, "I thought it was...," or "My opinion of XXXX is that XXXX is maddening") But gabbi, I get your point as well, I really do. It can be an awfully fine line and hard distinction, absolutely, and frustrating particularly because you can 100% know your own intent (to express your feelings only), whereas no one else really can, we can only guess, infer, assume....and then things get really messy.....so the stricter application of the rules is sort of in place to avoid the messiness - and sometimes impossible to resolve discussions of what people intended to say - in the first place? Does that make any sense?
poster:Kath
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