Posted by Kath on February 3, 2007, at 21:13:59
In reply to Re: He's staying at a friend's overnight......... » Kath, posted by Declan on February 2, 2007, at 20:23:13
Hi Declan,
Thanks for that. I remember you telling me that - I think in a very kind babblemail that you sent me. I'd forgotten. Yes, that's a great way to deal with it!!!
Today really is the best day so far.
My son & GF have been staying here, at our invitation, before the transition to staying at their friend's apartment.
Yesterday they were invited to that friend's place & went from there to another friend's house where they went on Tuesday.
My son didn't use or drink. He did some music 'mixing' or spinning as it's called with the 2 turntables & records. GF said that he did REALLY well & she really liked hearing him spin again. He took his meds. He went to bed at midnight.He & GF were picked up today at noon & slept, had supper with us, had a lovely chatting conversation, & at 8 he said he was going to take his meds & go to bed.
This has been the best day so far.
Plus, I got a chance to be alone with GF. We were outside & I hugged her, gently held her face & said, 'look into my eyes'. She said 'I haven't been using drugs!' & smiled. I said, 'No - I'm not trying to check that. I wanted to tell you I love you. But I do know that you've been doing something for you to be looking like you do.'
She asked if I meant last nite. I said no & she said, 'well, I have been while (son) was in the hospital.' I said that I knew that & I just wanted her to know that I knew & that I am not a judgemental person & don't judge her for it.Then - it was really actually funny because I was going to put a bag into the trunk, & I started carrying it towards the house door. She asked if I wasn't going to put it in the car & I laughed & rolled my eyes & said, "YESSSSS - & I haven't been doing drugs!!!! Except caffeine & sugar!!" and we both laughed.
Anyway, I sure feel a lot better. Hubby, son, GF & I had a nice casual supper & nice conversation, in which my son was sounding pretty normal - talking a bit slowly & carefully, but apart from that normal! Yayy.
I'm sure it's going to be a long row to hoe, but I am feeling 100% better now that I've talked with GF & we've had a nice family time etc.
thx all for your ongoing support in one of the very most difficult times in my life!
luv, Kath
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