Posted by ElaineM on September 12, 2006, at 23:05:55
In reply to Can anyone help??? CAN ANYONE OFFER ME ANY ADVICE?, posted by Clemence on September 12, 2006, at 16:49:00
Clemence, I'm sorry you lost your Grandma. It sounds like she was a big part of your life and a caring lady. If she seemed more of a mother to you than your real mom, then it's no wonder you were so effected by the loss of her. I find grief a very difficult emotion. It's like sadness and love and shock all wrapped into one. And it's so different for each person.
It's hard suffering from depression during your teens - when everyone is developing skills, and learning social stuff, and going to school. But you can catch up. Don't worry. And you're not alone. Others have worked their way back too. It sounds like you deserved way more support from your parents than you got. I found that depression was hard for my parents to understand -- it seemed like an attack on them, it was a "made up" thing... They just never were able to acknowledge it (or some of the other problems I've had). Perhaps your parents were in denial too. Have you ever talked to them about how hard it was for you?
I think it's pretty great that you're planning on going to college -- you should be proud of yourself no matter what level of courses you take. You should see if your college has a website, and look under Student Services/Resources or something like that. I've just used the Counselling Service at my university too. It'd be nice for you to get to talk to someone about what you've been going through. You don't even have to label what you went through, if you don't want. Just talk about what happened to you and how it made you feel, and stuff like that. Or start off my talking about managing depression.
Most of the time 18 seems to the age where you're considered an adult (for most things), in most countries. So I'm guessing that you could talk to your college without them telling your parents -- even if your parents asked them stuff. Plus, in school you'll get to be around others your age again :)
Take care of yourself, ELaine
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