Posted by Deneb on July 11, 2006, at 23:42:19
In reply to Re: I think I really do have a BPD » Deneb, posted by Racer on July 11, 2006, at 22:38:10
> Maybe it would help if you're clear on what you're looking for from other people when you post.
It might help here, but it didn't help there. I can't use that site to vent. Yes, it's that cancer site.
>That way, people who read it could decide whether or not to respond based on that.
I told people who don't like me to ignore me, but they won't do that.
> I can understand why someone there might react badly to you: your doctors have told you -- over and over again, it sounds like -- that the lumps you're concerned about are benign breast cysts. They are *not* cancer.
Actually I've been told I have a benign breast tumor, a fibroadenoma. I would rather have cysts because having fibroadenomas increases the risk of breast cancer two fold. There's no way for an ultrasound to determine if a solid lump is benign or cancerous, only a biopsy can determine that.
>The people at that site are dealing with real cancer, with real death sentences in many cases. Can you put yourself into their place, emotionally, for a minute and think about how your behavior might look from that perspective?
I don't know why, but I don't "get it". :-( Maybe I'm stupid or something. Maybe the other women there feel like I shouldn't be complaining because I don't have a diagnosis of breast cancer??
> We give a lot of slack, and Dr Bob has civility guidelines that protect everyone here. That's not only not true of the other board you're discussing, it's also not true of the world at large.
I wish there was a Dr. Bob moderating the world. :-( I'm not very good at real world stuff.
> Maybe learning that one lesson: identify the audience you're addressing before you address them. Maybe that would help you.
Obviously I didn't learn the first time. Maybe I will learn it this time?
> Good luck.
>
> Oh, and Deneb? I'm finding lately that I feel frustrated when I respond to your posts. I think I'm not going to respond for a while, because I don't like feeling this way.:-( Sorry I frustrate you. I seem to do that often. I don't even know what I do that frustrates people.
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