Posted by Dinah on June 27, 2006, at 12:01:24
In reply to Re: I got labelled as a troll :-( » Racer, posted by Deneb on June 26, 2006, at 23:42:53
> That's a very good piece of advice. I just wish I had more insight into what different audiences think and feel.
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> Deneb*
>People tend to give you cues of varying intensity. You just need to be open to them. You don't need to understand why. You just need to understand that it is so.
Of course no one deserves to be treated unkindly. But learning to judge social norms in any given situation is a very useful skill. You'll find it especially so when you go to work, because different places you might work at have different corporate cultures.
A couple of suggestions of things I try to do. Lurk a bit before you post to get a feel for the place. And try to accept how people feel about your posts even if you don't understand it. I don't understand some of the things people find triggering, but I try to be sensitive to the fact that they *do* find it triggering. Then you can adjust your posting style or not, as you see fit. But realize that whatever you do there are consequences. For example, I know that my personal appearance is somewhat outside of community norms, but I accept that because there are reasons that I dreass as I do and those reasons are more important to me. But the consequence is that I know some people are going to judge me negatively. And I live with that consequence.
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