Posted by Larry Hoover on May 23, 2006, at 8:42:13
In reply to Re: My family is insane and wants me to join them., posted by TexasChic on May 22, 2006, at 18:24:01
> Its good to have someone else tell you that your not being selfish.
It's good that you're starting to realize the unspoken messages in these family dealings.
I have a mantra, seldom used any more (I got good at it), that is slightly different than the version you've probably heard before. It goes like: "My feelings are not subject to questioning, by anyone. Even me."
Feelings just are. All the rest is thinking. You can change the thinking.
No means no. It should be the end. Oh dear, I just should on you.
No means no. End.
I learned to hang up on my mom. She hears no now.
Lar
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