Posted by Kath on May 21, 2006, at 11:52:20
In reply to Well I am just a big loser again.Can I get a hand?, posted by Jay on May 20, 2006, at 21:13:07
Oh dear - you're being so hard on yourself!!!! Everyone want to be loved & accepted. I agree that it might be good to try to be more relaxed & maybe low-key next time.
You sound like a really nice person. It's hard to meet others who 'click' with us. I've had this happen in the past (even though it's some years ago now).
Just a note also from my own experience - some people have bad reactions to fragrances (expensive AND inexpensive). I get bad headaches & sinus pain from colognes, aftershaves etc. My daughter has severe reactions to fragrances. I'm not saying that that's why things worked out as they did, but just wanted to mention it for general information purposes.
Don't give up Jay & please try not to be so down on yourself. I don't know if you have any particular interests or hobbies, but groups where people are interested in the same things are good places to meet people in a low-stress setting & be able to check each other out in a relaxed way. That way you can also ask someone who you seem to 'click' with to join in something that you know they're interested in...not so much emphasis on the 2 people but rather on doing something mutually enjoyable.
I hope you're feeling somewhat better about things by today.
:-)))) Kath
> I didn't make it to the PB b-party, and never met up with the many wonderful people here. Instead I wallowed and stewed in my own self pitty. Great! Of course it involves my stupid internet dating misfortunes. Please mind my dumb ramblings like a drunken fool. I met a woman in Toronto who I had been chatting with for almost a month with. She had a few pics of me, and I had of her. So no surprises about that. We met, and had numerous drinks in the hotel bar, which I had no problem paying for (and the $250 a night room too...ahem). I had one of those moments where it felt a bit like a bliss...kinda like a manic high, but controlable, and it had nothing to do with her looks, or anything superficial. Physically I always just thought of her as an 'average' looking woman...but that didn't even matter...because she had brains and a good heart and soul. But, when it came to me...it was like, I could feel it...she was giving me the cold shoulder! I dressed nice...smelled nice (100 buck cologne!)...well groomed and all....but I guess because I didn't jump out like the 'American Idiot'...err...I mean American Idol (lol) I wasn't good enough. But jeez...she had my pic?!?!? So, she emails me today after I emailed her, and she say's "..I just don't think you are "the one"." How great of her to make such a judgement after 3 or so hours of meeting, vs. a month or so of talking and exchanging pics. Ahhh..cripes....like Bono say's..."I've had enough of romantic love..."...
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> Jay
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