Posted by Gabbix2 on August 24, 2005, at 16:46:32
In reply to Re: so this is really silly but... » Dinah, posted by alexandra_k on August 24, 2005, at 16:40:47
> My mother used to literally scream at me everytime I set foot in the kitchen.
ME TOO!
It was horrible, horrible, she made every attempt so miserable.
She really screamed too, I'd always end up in tears. "God how can you be so stupid, you don't need the big burner for that pot, do you know how much electricity that wastes? I can't believe I raised a child so thoughtless"
I didn't get over my fear of the stove until... Well, I'm still a bit afraid...
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> I wrote a note for one of my flatmates and put it under her door... Something along the lines of being really busy and having trouble figuring out what to take / getting something. And I was worried about xxx feeling upset... And that I like them and enjoy living there and it wasn't personal but I wasn't going to come.
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> I imagine xxx will make a bit of an issue of it but...
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> I think... I really can just go 'oh well'. I don't care so very much what they think of me. Amazing.
That's great, it's so freeing. I've gotten a lot better at just saying "No, I'm sorry I can't, and if they press I just say, that's the way it is"
If they push, *they're* being rude. Good friends understand each others idiosyncracies, if these people can't, well no matter how much you socialized with them, they probably would never feel like true company anyway, so what's the point?"
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