Posted by m3 on August 15, 2005, at 22:36:49
Wow, you leave a place for a couple years and they change everything...Dinah's the only person I recognize (hi Dinah, remember me?). Maybe everybody else from back in the day is feeling better and has moved on.Anyway. I'm here because I'm about to go through another cross-country move, which I don't deal with very well, and in the meantime job and school are getting busy and stressful, and then I went to my best friend's wedding in Washington this weekend and instead of feeling happy for him (well, okay, I did some of that) I found I wanted to cry a lot because I wasn't included in the wedding. And I hadn't even realized it was important to me so it took me by surprise. I feel sort of petty and weird about this because neither he nor I really feels that strongly about ritual, and the wedding didn't have bridesmaids or anything. But they got a lot of organizing help from another (newer) friend who was also their "minister" (via an Internet church), and there was an official toasting time featuring both fathers and another newer friend, and while this friend was giving his perfectly good toast I kept wondering why I hadn't been asked even to lick envelopes or whatever (I did offer) since I've known him for eight years and lived (platonically) with him for three of them and generally think of him as my brother and dearest friend even though we've been hanging out less than we used to. I know beyond a doubt that he didn't mean to exclude me or hurt my feelings, and things get forgotten during wedding planning, and he has like a million Indian relatives who are great but overwhelming when they're all there together, so he couldn't come pay special attention to me during the actual weekend. I'm not mad at him. I'm just sad.
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