Posted by tamar on August 8, 2005, at 16:47:38
In reply to Re: Tamar, posted by crushedout on August 8, 2005, at 15:16:26
> well, maybe a few someones. it comes up for me often lately, my longings toward straight women. part of the problem is just that most women are (primarily) straight and especially the feminine-looking ones. I'm generally attracted to fairly feminine-looking women.
Me too. I tend to like feminine women and masculine men.
> Sometimes I think it's also possible that i just *assume* the feminine-looking ones are straight, which is silly, since i'm feminine-looking and gay.
I think we’re still living in the shadow of the butch/femme generation(s). It’s hard to break away from that because it was a very powerful aspect of lesbian culture, as far as I can tell. And also, I think to some extent gay women find it easier to get a partner if they wear the uniform, which makes it hard to spot lesbians who don’t conform to the stereotypes.
> but right now, i guess you're right: i have a specific person in mind. since it's my therapist, i don't think i have much of a shot. :( she's a good therapist. lucky me. (half-sarcastic, half-relieved)
From what you say, she seems professional, which does appear to reduce your chances with her. Maybe if she helps you through the transference agony you’ll find a nice straight woman who is available – or even better, a gay woman! And in the meantime, there’s the woman you’re dating…
> oh, yes, very silly. hours teaching a straight woman the joys of lesbianity? no, no, that's a punishment worse than death! please don't throw me in the briar patch!
Tee hee!
> (ok, it might not be that great if she was really clueless. but i think with a sensual person, it comes pretty naturally.)
Yeah, I think you’re right, although if I recall (and it was a long time ago) there was quite a bit of learning to do. And I think it took a while to develop my neck muscles… (I’d better stop now before I get carried away…)
Tamar
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