Posted by Deneb on July 1, 2005, at 18:33:47
In reply to For Deneb, I'm so sorry, posted by Susan47 on July 1, 2005, at 12:14:49
> Why on earth can't you yell back at him when he yells at you?
I'm usually not the yelling type.
>Is he physically violent, does he say things that hurt your self-esteem?
No, he knows he cannot directly direct his anger towards me...that is probably why he yelled at me over the phone instead of in person. He yells at his kids and his wife a LOT. I don't think he is the violent type. His wife (my aunt) just takes it all...she *seems* to take it all in stride.
> Because he needs his self-esteem checked. He has no respect for anybody, I'll bet, unless they have a lot of money. Seems like money's all he sees in life.
Yes, it is very sad. He's willing to sacrifice everything for money...he's too cheap to even buy fish for his kids to eat...he even buys vegetables from the reduced to clear section. It is not like he doesn't have money either.
> Can you talk to your cousin about it? Maybe you can save another person from becoming like him.
My cousin is quite mature despite his age. He has grown up to be a sensitive and thoughtful kid. He seems to have a lot of empathy for others, probably because he has had to carry the burden of being the oldest and having to help the family out with language difficulties etc.
> What caused your uncle to be this way? Has he lived in poverty, is he scraping his way up or what?
I think poverty has a lot to do with it. I'm pretty sure he grew up poor...as did a lot of others in China during that time period.
Deneb
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