Posted by alexandra_k on June 23, 2005, at 5:52:58
In reply to I don't feel connected anymore :-(, posted by Deneb on June 22, 2005, at 21:35:45
I don't have many friends IRL.
Just people who are closer or more distant acquaintances. I know that sounds strange...I can talk to different people about different things. My office mate is good to talk to about philosophy stuff. And about ethical issues. About computers. A little bit about problems I'm having - but not very much really.
Other friends I can rave to a bit more when I'm feeling upset. But then they can be fairly hopeless if I'm in a quandry and don't know what to do. They can listen and get mad with me - but thats cause they go around being mad themselves much of the time.
Other friends I talk about music to or whatever.
Thats why I like Babble, I guess. Because there are lots of people here. When you start a thread mostly you don't have any particular poster in mind. So it isn't like you are catering what you say to someone in particular. Sometimes things just work out that you talk to a couple people a lot. And then sometimes you find yourself talking to a couple different people for a while. Then sometimes you start talking to the first people again and round and round it goes. I don't think people forget you. It is just that different people are in different places and are involved in different conversations so there is a movement closer and further away and closer and further away... And sometimes people move on, that is true. But then new people come into our lives as well...
And whether other people feel too close or too far away can vary as your needs / moods change too.
I guess when I don't feel connected I reach out for a connection - like you did.
Starting a thread is an invitation.
So is responding to someone elses.I care about you.
I'd certainly notice if you were gone and I'd miss you.:-)
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